It’s January 23rd. Maybe you’re making great and sustainable strides on all the goals that you’ve set for yourself this year (if so, I’m so freaking proud of you). But maybe you haven’t, and that’s okay too. Maybe life’s thrown you a curve ball, maybe you’ve bitten off more than you can chew, maybe you told yourself you’d set goals a little later but now it feels too late.
Well, it isn’t too late. Or, at least, I hope it’s not, because for the last 23 days, resolutions have been a tomorrow task that never comes. I’ve never been very good at remembering my resolutions, let alone following through on them, so by the time a new year rolls around, I’m usually disappointed in myself but I don’t even know exactly why. My need to pick some grand, admirable goal has finally been over-ridden by my desire to have a real goal I’ll finally reach. So here are six resolutions that I can definitely achieve in 2019 (and if I can do it, so can you). The fact that they’re relatively easy doesn’t make them any less valuable.
1. Learn to cook/bake something really fucking delicious.
The “really fucking delicious” bit means that this can’t just be the first recipe of the New Year. This is something special, the thing with a bit of risk that will make you really proud. Maybe it’s a replica of a favorite store-bought treat, maybe it’s something intricate from scratch. Maybe it’s a creative new use of cake mix. When you’ve found your special something, save the recipe somewhere so it can be a staple treat.
Bonus points: make it for someone you love (preferably your mom).
2. Read more.
Take the number of for-pleasure books that you think you should read this year. Now cut that number in half. And in half again. That’s your new goal, and anything past that is just icing.
Bonus points: ask a friend for a book recommendation. Actually read it.
3. Make a new friend.
Fortunately, Grace just wrote a post on how to do exactly that. (Imaginary friends, for the sake of this resolution, does not count. Internet friends do.)
Bonus points: visit an old friend who lives farther away.
4. Learn to do something relatively useless but fun.
I’m thinking a magic trick, mainly because I just watched the third season of The Magicians (which is way better than the crappy book it’s based on). But any sort of party trick will do. Finally learn how to whistle, or crack an egg open with one hand, or roll a coin across your fingers, or all the lyrics to Alphabet Aerobics. Not everything has to be productive. But…
Bonus points: learn something relatively useful but less fun. Finally learn how to jump start a car or really understand wordpress’s new stupid block editor. (I’d say HTLYT is an excellent place to pick up this stuff, but we make learning fun.) (That was cheesy I’m sorry.)
5. Don’t be too hard on yourself.
And this includes being too hard on yourself for being too hard on yourself. It’s 2019 and we could all use a little more gentleness.
Bonus points: Practice standing up for yourself (and sometimes even to yourself). Whether this means not apologizing as much or literally telling someone to fuck off, make a little more room for yourself in the world this year.
6. [Insert one little thing that will make a difference to you in particular here]
Take five minutes, right now (or when you’re commuting somewhere, or when you’re in the shower, or when you’re in your bed tonight) and figure out that one thing that you want to check off in the next eleven-months-or-so. It do won’t be a silver bullet to all your problems (we’re talking about little things, after all, something you can definitely accomplish) but it’ll be a start.
Bonus points: take a nap. I can almost guarantee we could all use a little more sleep.
Do you have any big goals for the year? Have you added any little ones? Let us know in the comments.
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